Counselling and Sustainable recovering trainings helped Jean Pierre to support teenager’s families. 

Jean Pierre

GATETE Jean Pierre, a farmer, 47 years old, he has 6 children and lives in KINUNGA village, KARAMBI cell, MUHAZI sector, RWAMAGANA District, Eastern Province. IHOZO Aline is the second born of Jean Pierre and was studying in S3 in 2016.  She was good in class and in family works. She got pregnant at the age of 16 and when her father got that information, both Aline and her mother were traumatized and insulted by Pierre, because he believed that the pregnancy of the daughter happened because of the carelessness of the mother. “I felt ashamed in the community because my daughter got pregnant and feel like I can’t talk as community member in front of the public, it is in this context that IHOZO was stigmatized.  I continuously tell her that she is no longer considered as my daughter”. Gatete explained.

In partnership with Rwamagana District, Réseau des femmes and Kvinna Till Kvinna supported Pierre and his family to overcome all these challenges. To rebuild hearts of both parents and teen mothers, counseling session were conducted targeting both teen mothers and parents and training were about sustainable recovering and counseling processes.

“I have benefited the training provided by the project and I’m no longer feeling ashamed of my daughter; I understood that my grandchild is born for God’s will and she is a child as others, thus, she has to enjoy her rights as other children” Pierre explained.

Pierre’s family is now peaceful and happy to have overcome all challenges due to the support from Reseau des femmes. “From the URI NYAMPINGA project, I’m feeling responsible of my children and now we are seating together and always have time to interchanges as family members for good communication and sort out challenges among my family members” said Pierre.

Pierre is now being trustworthy, and he is the chairperson of ANTI-GBV CLUB of Muhazi and he has reconciled three families whose couples were separated because GBV issues and continued to play the role of mediator between families and their teen mothers separated because of harassments. ” because my daughter has now demonstrated the good behavior, I have decided send her in Vocation Skills training and committed provide all needed support for her studies” Pierre added.


Counselling and Sustainable recovering trainings helped Jean Pierre to support teenager’s families. 

MUTUMWINKA Clarisse, 19, lives in Rwamagana District, Muhazi sector, Nyarusange cell, Plage village.  Born in family of 11 children; from 3 years old she was raised at her aunt and returned home at the age of ten years.

MUTUMWINKA Clarisse, 19, lives in Rwamagana District, Muhazi sector, Nyarusange cell, Plage village.  Born in family of 11 children; from 3 years old she was raised at her aunt and returned home at the age of ten years.

When she come back, it was not easier for both parents to meet at home because both parents are pastors in different churches, therefore having different programs. It was very difficult even impossible for Clarisse’s parent to find appropriate time to seat with parent and have discussion with parents on reproductive health which would be good for her to acquire knowledge on avoiding unwanted pregnancy.

Clarisse declared” in 2015 I was in Ruhunda school, in Gishari Sector, Rwamagana District leaving with my parents in my mother’s church house. Inside the compound, we had neighbors and one of them was a boy of 27-years-old who always told me about love and few months later he told me that he is seek and I went to visit him- that was an opportunity for him to convince me that he loves me and I slept with him and got pregnant.”


SUCCESS STORY of MRS MUKAMANZI DONATHILE AND HER FAMILY

SEMAVARA Family

In her story, Donathille describes her life with her husband before and after being trained and sensitized on women’s unpaid care work and how they can reduce it to enable her to do other economic and social work.

MUKAMANZI Donatille is married to Bizimana Innocent since 1986. They have 10 children together, 5 boys and 5 girls. Their first two children got married, while their 3rd child MANIRAGUHA Lucie got pregnant very young at the age of 17, all the other children are still in school. They live in Kabarima Village, Kidakama Cell, Gahunga Sector in Burera District.

After getting married, Donathille was giving birth every year and at the same time doing domestic work from morning until late hours in the night.  Her husband was taking this as normal because culturally in Rwanda, there are tasks and responsibilities attributed to a man or a woman. As a man, her husband could not think that he can help her is some of the domestic work such as cooking, fetching water, collecting fire wood,… In 2009, her husband had an accident and lost a leg.  Since that time, Donathille’s life became very hard because her unpaid care work much increased with taking care of her husband in addition to the children. Her day was so busy.  She would wake up early in the morning and go farming for food in the neighbor’s field, come back late in the afternoon, look for firewood and fetch water. Because she didn’t have containers and tanks to store water neither imireko, she was fetching water tree time a day even during raining season. Fetching water to Byunga takes her 2 hours for going and coming back. Near her house, there is a place where they sale water at 30 Rwandan franc a jerican. She couldn’t afford that price every day that is why she was going to fetch far from her house in the River. The situation became worse when she knew that her third daughter Lucie was pregnant at the age of 17.  She felt very sad and discouraged. Donathille condemned herself that her daughter got pregnant at early age because she did not have material time to discuss life matters with her children.

Donathille’s life changed from the day her daughter Lucie, the teen mother was involved in URINYAMPINGA project implemented by Reseau des Femmes in partnership with Kvinna till Kvinna. She is thanking Reseau des Femmes and Kvinna till Kvinna for training them in women unpaired care work which made her husband realize the very hard domestic work that his wife has been doing all the years at home alone. During the training, they filled individual time dairies. From that exercise, her husband realized that from 4hrs in the morning up to 22hrs late in the evening, she was still doing domestic work and sleep around 22hrs. They discussed their time dairies and the husband decided to buy 4 big containers which keep like 200 litters of water to keep more water in the house and reduce the frequency of fetching water.

                     BIZIMANA Innocent and his Wife and      

                     teen mother called MANIRAGUHA Lucie 

Before, Donatille used to fetch water 3 times a day in the past and now she is only going 3 times a week. In addition, they no longer fetch water in the rainy season as they use rain water captured and stored in the tanks and containers. Consequently, she saved time to attend Community social work for example Umugoroba w’Ababyeyi (evening parents) where parents discuss different topics concerning their lives and also taking care of herself.


Counselling and Sustainable recovering trainings helped Jean Pierre to support teenager’s families. 

NYINAWUMUNTU Divine, 19, lives with her mother in KINGONDO village, KARITUTU cell, MUHAZI Sector, Rwamagana District, Eastern province.

She lost her father at the age of 8 and from that time, she went to live with her grandmother because after the death of her father, her mother was remarried. Reaching grandmother home, Divine went to school but dropped out at P6 because she got pregnant in 2016 at 17 years old and go back home to live with her mother.  

Divine was harassed and abandoned by her mother until URI NI NYAMPINGA and Kvinna till Kvinna project came and select her and other teen mothers to attend trainings on GBV, Child rights, Sexual and reproductive health aiming at increasing knowledge and skills of teenagers to make informed decision on family planning, to prevent unwanted pregnancy as well as preventing sexual transmitted diseases.

It is not only Divine who benefited the trainings on GBV, child rights and sexual reproductive health training but also her mother benefited same trainings. Despite all trainings organized the project the harassment continued and Divine was always stigmatized.   Divine said “even though my mother had benefited the trainings on GBV and child rights, she didn’t change, she continued harassing me and I was isolate from my family”. This situation continued until the club ANTI-GBV of parents committee came and brought together Divine and her mother for dialogue. This dialogue was very important to Divine and her mother because from the dialogue Divine and her mother became together as one family and talk about what cause differences. It is from then Divine’s mam understood that what happened to her daughter was an accident caused by lack of knowledge on reproductive health. Now, the family is happy and living together in harmony, no harassment and other any form of violence perpetrated against Divine and her child.


Opinion leaders’ lens on the URI NYAMPINGA Project impact.  

Mr. MANIRIHO Francois 35 years old, is an opinion leader living in Gafuka Cell, Kinoni Sector, Burera District.

Mr. MANIRIHO Francois conducting Umugoroba w’ababyeyi is confirming the impact of URI NYAMPINGA PROJECT on Beneficiaries and on the entire community in general.

He is saying that GBV, GBV Laws, Child Right trainings provided to local leaders helped them to have a good understanding of the importance of child rights and preventing unwanted pregnancy among teenage. The absence of these knowledge to local authorities, caused a lot of confusions and misunderstanding which affect community wellbeing.

 MANIRIHO Francois added” before the training we were not able to understand the problem of teenage pregnancy in our sector and how this is affecting negatively both teenage lives, their children and their family. Now we are here to prevent this in our sector and support those who got pregnant as well as GBV victims”.

After the training, a plan of action was developed to be able to tackle real problems that underpins GBV, Child right and unwanted pregnancies among teenage and this included firstly to  conduct awareness raising on child right especially the right of child to have parents and being registered in civil status books, and secondly to mobilize all the community members on fighting against  gender based violence which was prevalent in the community .

According to MANIRIHO Francois, all these were done, and the outcome is the reduction of cases of GBV, child right issues as well as the teenage pregnancy incidence. 

“It is not only the above problems solved due to this project but also the problem of families who harassed and/or rejected their daughters because of teenage pregnancy which is now ended. A typical example is the family NTIBARIKURE Callixte’ s family who had rejected her daughter after getting pregnant but know she is back home and live with family and get all necessary support from parents.” said François

Francois concluded that projects like this are welcome because they are making sustainable impact in the community and they are contributing positively to human rights and henceforth to the development in general.